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I was reading an article on Vogue.com the other day about how the Internet and celebrity stylists “destroyed personal style.” I found the article so interesting because the position/point of view of the writer was so distinctly one-sided. You could tell she was really aggravated with the topic. With a strong point of view like this, it made me feel almost as if I wanted to meet her just to see what she (or he) wears… exactly how mind-blowingly different her/his “personal style” is.

Naturally, now that I have a blog, I have a place to put all my un-asked for opinions. So here goes.

Personally, I found the opinion a bit closed-minded. I don’t want to call it ridiculous, because a point of view should be anything you believe. That’s kind of the whole point. There were some parts of the article that I definitely found true. I always respect everyone’s point of view, I just simply didn’t agree whole-heartedly with the concept that “personal style” has been destroyed. Because well, that’s pretty close to impossible.

Long story short, she basically spoke on how personal style is extinct because nobody picks out their own clothing, they just wear a variation of what everyone else is wearing, or what stylists pick out for them. My issue with this: The whole art of seeing what someone has on and being inspired, is literally human nature. We automatically want to do what we see being done. Now don’t get me wrong, of course there are those few and far between fashion visionaries that revolutionize the industry and every once in a while come out with something new that nobody is doing at the moment. But trust me, they’ve pulled inspiration from somewhere, obviously. We should realize that nothing is new under the sun. And I’ll leave my point at that.

If the ’70s are back and I want to put my spin on it, I will! ’90s trends back full circle? Yep I’ll wear it my way too, especially since that particular decade is MY home.

I think that people tend to get too deep and start taking fashion too seriously. Just have fun. Do you. Even if you at any given point in time is a compilation of 50 million different pictures, videos, models, celebs, and runways that you’ve seen from a variety of sources, both consciously and subconsciously, put together. So what? All of that comes together with your brain and perception to make what will turn into your personal style. That’s another thing. Sometimes inspiration is subconscious. Actually, usually it is. How do you think it is that in a certain season, 85% of the designers have similar components? They’re certainly not all on the same brain wavelength, if that’s what you’re thinking. They’ve likely seen something and subconsciously, got inspired by it and put their own twist on it. It just so happens that fortunately or unfortunately, the other designers did, too. It’s the person that makes the fashion, not the fashion that makes the person. On the other hand, for those of you getting your underwear in a bunch, there are those designers/people who actually do steal ideas. That is a completely different thing. However, again, one designer can do something his/her way, and when another designer takes a stab at it with his/her own twist, there will still be people to buy the second designer. Whether it be that one subtle change that they prefer over the other, the price difference, preference/favoritism of designer, or wanting to be seen in a certain designer because of personal shallow reasons… it happens. Life goes on, and fashion continues to repeat itself.

I also think there’s a difference between personal style and imitation. At the end of the day, if you see a style from a designer, or something that a celebrity is wearing and you like it, of course you’ll be inspired, and be apt to purchase it or something similar. Is that not a personal choice? If you see a celebrity wearing something you don’t like, you’re not going to emulate it. Because you don’t like it. It’s simple. Now there are exceptions: if you are willing to wear something you don’t even like, just to seemingly “fit in” or impress others… that’s where the problem lies. But I don’t find that that’s honestly many people’s intention. People make things hard by believing the naive pretense that everyone just copies each other and nobody is an individual. WE are all individuals. We all will do, see, wear things differently. Just because a particular style is trendy at the time and you like it so you take part and wear it in your own way, in no way means you have no personal style. Nor does being famous and having a personal stylist choose options for you for events. Now that, is nonsense.


Even the people who dress “differently” from mainstream trends, still have others who dress the same as them. The girl who chooses the bright pink polkadot dress with a neon green floppy hat, knee high socks and vintage loafers, is also never alone.

Personal style is not about sticking to one thing. It is about your personal evolution. Your closet should be transitional. It should look like a compilation of several different people living in one house… because essentially, we can have many different personalities inside of ourselves that we want to cater to at different times. MY SWITCH UP IS SO REAL. And I would never want to be stuck in a career that would prohibit me from being, me. So I’m praying to God I don’t have to ever make a decision like that because… it’s a deal breaker. One day I could be one person and the next week, another, which could very well be a different persona from who you see a month from now. Style should be fun. Switching it up is what keeps it interesting!

The decade dressers. The punk rock dressers. The ‘F the man’ dressers. We all just like certain things, and for whatever reasons we have or driving forces that inspire us to dress the way we do, I think we need not be forced and pressured to discuss with society our reasoning every time we get dressed. These are personal choices. And that, is the birth of personal style.


I do believe that some people don’t yet know what their personal style is or how to express themselves through the way they dress, YET, and that’s when you have the people who will just copy full and complete outfits from head to toe from other people. No personal twist, no additions, subtractions, nothing. Just exactly what they saw someone else wear. And even with that, no judgement! We have got to learn to stop pushing our perceptions on everyone else. Those people just have to figure out how to bring their personal style out. And they will! In time. It in no way means that they don’t possess personal style at all. That’s an insult to humans everywhere. Human nature in itself is the art of seeing and doing. Copying. Every time I turn around there’s an article somewhere… Harper’s Bazaar, Vogue, Glamour, wherever… “9 street style trends to copy now!” Fashion has been a cycle of copying with a twist since the beginning of time. And not just fashion. Everything. Life, in general. Just like when you used to ask your mom if you could do something because “all your friends are doing it”, and she used to respond, “So if your friend jumps off a bridge, are you going to do it, too?” Even in the Garden of Eden in the Bible (clearly wayyyyy back), Eve persuaded Adam to eat the fruit of the forbidden tree. We, as humans, will naturally want to do what others do. Whether good or bad. This is a proven fact. It’s our nature. Fashion is no different.

If you’re one of those people who are just “too individualistic to understand” that you, also, do things you see… then clearly this isn’t for you to understand. If people would stop harping so much on it and just embrace that as humans we are ALL more alike than we like to admit, the world would be a much better and more peaceful place. But hey, that’s just #MyTwoCents. Thoughts on the subject? Feel free to leave them in the comments below!

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The look:

lips, ColourPop “StingRaye”

purse, UO

skirt, ASOS

tee, ASOS (Sold Out)

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